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Positive Thinking from a Coaches Viewpoint
Positive people don’t think about how they are viewed by others – they don’t care if by cooperating and doing what others request they seem weak – if they are enhancing their future and achieving a goal, they are being positive!
Do you look at every action you take as having a good outcome/result.
If you feel or visualise that you may fail – you will fail – you have programmed yourself to fail.
On the other hand if you see yourself as a winner and succeeding all the time – you will succeed.
It’s very simple, you have to be positive in your thoughts and attitude.
Be aware that we are all mirrors and reflect back to others what they display to us and vice versa.
If someone approaches you with an aggressive (negative) attitude you are most likely to respond with the same attitude. So whatever you do or say to others will be reflected back to you so therefore you are accountable for the reactions of the people you interact with every day.
When you meet people in a positive and friendly manner and develop a habit of always being willing to help others you will find the world is a lovely place with friends everywhere.
Make friends – not enemies – remember you will get nothing from an enemy only trouble, but a friend is invaluable and should always be cherished.
Positive people have Self Belief, Persistence, Tenacity, Stamina, and Humanity. All five attributes are essential and complement each other.
Self belief will enable you to be persistent and tenacious, as without self belief you would give up when things are going wrong and instead of looking for a solution to the problem you would give up and accept failure.
When you are persistent and tenacious you will find that each setback you encounter you will find a lesson in the outcome and try another approach to the problem.
With self belief comes an inbuilt reserve of stamina.
All this positive thinking will only make you into an unlovable human machine if you haven’t got humanity.
Humanity is what distinguishes us from other species on this planet, making us loving and considerate, therefore enabling us to have a conscience on what we do to each other.
Hitler was a positive thinker but he didn’t have any humanity!
Bill Gates is a positive thinker and he has humanity (Whether you like him or not he does give a vast amount to charity)
The Dalai Lama and the Pope are positive thinkers and all winners in life think positively.
Positive thinkers don’t indulge in self pity or whinge when everything is going against them –they look for a different prospective on the problem and persist until they find a solution to their problem.
Quote:
"Obstacles can't stop you. Problems can't stop you. Most of all, other people can't stop you. Only you can stop you."
Jeffrey Gitomer
Tuesday 22 December 2009
Friday 4 December 2009
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“Every action has a reaction”
As we go through life we get an exact reaction from others of what we present to them ie. If we are friendly we get a friendly co-operative attitude from all that we meet, on the other hand, if we are aggressive and have an abrasive and insulting manner we find that most people will want to avoid us and we will eventually find ourselves friendless.
Believe it or not, a lot of people who are abrupt, abrasive and insulting towards others don’t think they are doing anything wrong – most times they have an extreme lack of confidence and have the mindset that others are trying to undermine them.
I have known at least three people who had a preponderance to deal with people in their every day life, abruptly, abusively and with no regard to others feelings.
Oliver was businessman, who meet his customers face to face and he always seemed to have just swallowed something nasty and usually managed to insult everyone at one time or another. Surprisingly his customers stayed with him for awhile, but when a competitor came along he lost the majority of his clients because they could get what they needed without being insulted and embarrassed.
James was a manager in a large corporation and was in charge of a training unit within the company. This training was manual skills and had a number of instructors delivering skills to youths who needed motivation and guidance in everyday personal skills as well as the trade skills.
Every six weeks the James held a staff meeting at which he in theory was to plan future actions for the benefit of the training and to motivate the instructors. At every meeting he blatantly used the occasion to lambast and embarrass the instructors, both collectively and individually.
The instructors walked out of these meetings (on Friday afternoon), demoralised and with their chins on the ground with the prospect of having to go in on Monday morning and somehow find the stamina to motivate their trainees.
I was one of those instructors and I am proud to say that we did find the belief in ourselves and in our trainees to help them forward.
We saw James for what he was – a frightened man without the self confidence he needed for the position of authority that he held and we saw also that he had a persecution complex and never seemed to be truly happy despite having all the worldly good he could want.
Michael had a position with a community organization in which he interacted with members and with volunteers. He was usually civil to the members, but any volunteers who needed to speak to him usually got insulted or spoken to in a demeaning way. This was very detrimental to the organization as it was stopping a lot of people coming forward to help.
Michael was like this all of his time in the organization and was very jealous minded as he lacked confidence and self esteem.
He seemed to think that he could demand respect.
Most people who knew Michael did respect him, but because of his attitude towards them they preferred to avoid him and he did not have many willing friends – He had some friends, only because he was a very old man.
This lack of friends and respect was a catastrophe, as in reality he was a very good charity worker and gave most of his time to helping others.
He never did wake up to the truism “Every action has a reaction”
“Every action has a reaction”
As we go through life we get an exact reaction from others of what we present to them ie. If we are friendly we get a friendly co-operative attitude from all that we meet, on the other hand, if we are aggressive and have an abrasive and insulting manner we find that most people will want to avoid us and we will eventually find ourselves friendless.
Believe it or not, a lot of people who are abrupt, abrasive and insulting towards others don’t think they are doing anything wrong – most times they have an extreme lack of confidence and have the mindset that others are trying to undermine them.
I have known at least three people who had a preponderance to deal with people in their every day life, abruptly, abusively and with no regard to others feelings.
Oliver was businessman, who meet his customers face to face and he always seemed to have just swallowed something nasty and usually managed to insult everyone at one time or another. Surprisingly his customers stayed with him for awhile, but when a competitor came along he lost the majority of his clients because they could get what they needed without being insulted and embarrassed.
James was a manager in a large corporation and was in charge of a training unit within the company. This training was manual skills and had a number of instructors delivering skills to youths who needed motivation and guidance in everyday personal skills as well as the trade skills.
Every six weeks the James held a staff meeting at which he in theory was to plan future actions for the benefit of the training and to motivate the instructors. At every meeting he blatantly used the occasion to lambast and embarrass the instructors, both collectively and individually.
The instructors walked out of these meetings (on Friday afternoon), demoralised and with their chins on the ground with the prospect of having to go in on Monday morning and somehow find the stamina to motivate their trainees.
I was one of those instructors and I am proud to say that we did find the belief in ourselves and in our trainees to help them forward.
We saw James for what he was – a frightened man without the self confidence he needed for the position of authority that he held and we saw also that he had a persecution complex and never seemed to be truly happy despite having all the worldly good he could want.
Michael had a position with a community organization in which he interacted with members and with volunteers. He was usually civil to the members, but any volunteers who needed to speak to him usually got insulted or spoken to in a demeaning way. This was very detrimental to the organization as it was stopping a lot of people coming forward to help.
Michael was like this all of his time in the organization and was very jealous minded as he lacked confidence and self esteem.
He seemed to think that he could demand respect.
Most people who knew Michael did respect him, but because of his attitude towards them they preferred to avoid him and he did not have many willing friends – He had some friends, only because he was a very old man.
This lack of friends and respect was a catastrophe, as in reality he was a very good charity worker and gave most of his time to helping others.
He never did wake up to the truism “Every action has a reaction”
Thursday 26 November 2009
Desiderata
Go placidly amid the noise and haste
And remember what peace there may be in silence
As far as possible, without surrender be on good terms with all persons,
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
And listen to others, even the dull and ignorant, they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter:
For always there will be greater or lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble:
It is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
Many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself, especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
It is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, No less than the trees and the stars;
You have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
There! Be at peace with God, what ever you conceive Him to be,
And whatever your labours and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life,
Keep peace with you soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be careful.
Strive to be happy.
Found on Old Saint Paul’s Church, Baltimore: dated 1692
"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."
Franklin D. Roosevelt
Go placidly amid the noise and haste
And remember what peace there may be in silence
As far as possible, without surrender be on good terms with all persons,
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
And listen to others, even the dull and ignorant, they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter:
For always there will be greater or lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble:
It is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
Many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself, especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
It is perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe, No less than the trees and the stars;
You have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
No doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
There! Be at peace with God, what ever you conceive Him to be,
And whatever your labours and aspirations in the noisy confusion of life,
Keep peace with you soul.
With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world.
Be careful.
Strive to be happy.
Found on Old Saint Paul’s Church, Baltimore: dated 1692
"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today."
Franklin D. Roosevelt
Monday 23 November 2009
John McManus -
I am a life coach, working with the homeless (voluntarily) at present and deriving great pleasure
from seeing my clients grow in confidence and self esteem.
The surprising fact I have relised is that so many people have skills that could be utilised to give them a very sustainably lifestyle, if only they had the confidence to use them.
So many young people have gone to college and Uni and just haven't got the conifidence or the ambition to get themselves jobs or to start their own projects.
Sometimes it is because they have realised their goal of achieving a degree etc and just don't feel the need to push forward - they have reached a plateau.
In life you can never stay on a plateau - you either go upward or downwards.
In other words "they go with the flow"
I always say "When you go with the flow, you are always going downhill"
I tell my clients to make the best possible use of the skills they have and not to drift along through life.
"Yesterday is gone - Live today and have positive visions of tomorrow"
Please feel free to ask questions or make comments
I am a life coach, working with the homeless (voluntarily) at present and deriving great pleasure
from seeing my clients grow in confidence and self esteem.
The surprising fact I have relised is that so many people have skills that could be utilised to give them a very sustainably lifestyle, if only they had the confidence to use them.
So many young people have gone to college and Uni and just haven't got the conifidence or the ambition to get themselves jobs or to start their own projects.
Sometimes it is because they have realised their goal of achieving a degree etc and just don't feel the need to push forward - they have reached a plateau.
In life you can never stay on a plateau - you either go upward or downwards.
In other words "they go with the flow"
I always say "When you go with the flow, you are always going downhill"
I tell my clients to make the best possible use of the skills they have and not to drift along through life.
"Yesterday is gone - Live today and have positive visions of tomorrow"
Please feel free to ask questions or make comments
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