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“Every action has a reaction”

As we go through life we get an exact reaction from others of what we present to them ie. If we are friendly we get a friendly co-operative attitude from all that we meet, on the other hand, if we are aggressive and have an abrasive and insulting manner we find that most people will want to avoid us and we will eventually find ourselves friendless.

Believe it or not, a lot of people who are abrupt, abrasive and insulting towards others don’t think they are doing anything wrong – most times they have an extreme lack of confidence and have the mindset that others are trying to undermine them.

I have known at least three people who had a preponderance to deal with people in their every day life, abruptly, abusively and with no regard to others feelings.

Oliver was businessman, who meet his customers face to face and he always seemed to have just swallowed something nasty and usually managed to insult everyone at one time or another. Surprisingly his customers stayed with him for awhile, but when a competitor came along he lost the majority of his clients because they could get what they needed without being insulted and embarrassed.

James was a manager in a large corporation and was in charge of a training unit within the company. This training was manual skills and had a number of instructors delivering skills to youths who needed motivation and guidance in everyday personal skills as well as the trade skills.
Every six weeks the James held a staff meeting at which he in theory was to plan future actions for the benefit of the training and to motivate the instructors. At every meeting he blatantly used the occasion to lambast and embarrass the instructors, both collectively and individually.
The instructors walked out of these meetings (on Friday afternoon), demoralised and with their chins on the ground with the prospect of having to go in on Monday morning and somehow find the stamina to motivate their trainees.
I was one of those instructors and I am proud to say that we did find the belief in ourselves and in our trainees to help them forward.
We saw James for what he was – a frightened man without the self confidence he needed for the position of authority that he held and we saw also that he had a persecution complex and never seemed to be truly happy despite having all the worldly good he could want.

Michael had a position with a community organization in which he interacted with members and with volunteers. He was usually civil to the members, but any volunteers who needed to speak to him usually got insulted or spoken to in a demeaning way. This was very detrimental to the organization as it was stopping a lot of people coming forward to help.
Michael was like this all of his time in the organization and was very jealous minded as he lacked confidence and self esteem.
He seemed to think that he could demand respect.
Most people who knew Michael did respect him, but because of his attitude towards them they preferred to avoid him and he did not have many willing friends – He had some friends, only because he was a very old man.
This lack of friends and respect was a catastrophe, as in reality he was a very good charity worker and gave most of his time to helping others.
He never did wake up to the truism “Every action has a reaction”